Follow, Lead, do both Or ….

We can all follow behind someone and still not meet everyone or do everything that the person we are following has done or met.  Calling those experiences, made for us, my reflection is about what causes us to see ourselves as followers and not leaders.

All Things Father related

  • Could it be that we are seeking to be the proverbial “father” that has been defined to us as a savior, hero, or prophet?
  • Does this make it a Male portrayed role?
  • Does this make it defined by only one person?
  • Does this require that we see, do, or believe only one thing?

Constantly reminded of how much religion seems to get away with missing information.  For example, a great many of Jesus and other prophets are missing written reflections of their lives.  Entire segments of their existence are not known or written about.  When they are written about it is a considerable amount of time later.  Religious text are often written more in biographical form rather than auto biographical form.  There is a growing and often very different nature about questioning or challenging what is known.  

Thinking about my experience of a woman named Pat, and attending her funeral, it may be easy to relate to how our stories get told.  Are we direct without fear? Are we direct to a fault? Is it easier to accept or laugh about when it is told by someone else?  Leading to a question I have always asked

How come Jesus didn’t just write the story himself and be direct?

What is the purpose of text written in Parables? 

When I met Pat, a women who inspired me, with her direct approach to answers, she wasn’t in a traditional church.  As I had known churches up to that point this was a very untraditional kind of worship.  She shared with me parts of her life story.  I didn’t know if she shared them with anyone else.  Thinking about what she shared and now after a couple of years have gone by, what affect they had on me. Two things keep me asking challenging questions:

How come Pat’s experience inspired me?

Years later what makes it important for me to share her story?

Let me share a short story about some of what seems inconsistent and indirect.  Using a challenging issue for today’s time:

Growing Up Gay

Standing in the book store it is amazing how many books there are and how many, that are not even on the shelves, that exist without being seen as much.  To stand in the LGBT section is in itself a huge thing.  Someone may ask, How come? A very valid question.  When asked sincerely with an open mind and heart.  A person may hear it answered:

It takes courage.

To be seen looking at what people have judged so cruelly and with such malice.  Could be similar to being seen holding a naked child in the middle of a public place.  Would it matter that this emotion be too much for some people to experience?  Would it matter how this experience was handled?  Would it matter what questions were asked or even if questions were asked?  

Sexual orientation has mattered and my question remains, How come?  Thousands, hundreds of thousands of books have been written and speak of the very same things as LGBT books address. It remains a mystery to me exactly why a majority of people when asked a question about LGBT acceptance respond with answers associated to sex and how some book or person has defined sex.  My thought remains, How come?  Who exactly has that power? Who has given it to them and how come if a definition of sex is so defined an overwhelming majority of people violate the very act of behavior they seem to define?  What also comes to mind is how many people find themselves in fear or shame about sex.  Does this fear and shame have an affect on the # of violent acts of assault or abuse?

These questions won’t all be answered in a blog or by one person.  They probably won’t be answered in my lifetime. However, I can ask and I am confident that when I do I will hear what people really fear about LGBT issues.  Considering that it wields a mighty sword and comes with some big implications of values, ethics, and morale’s my reasonable reflection is that sex drives people to do things and act in ways that are beyond what someone is really willing to define.

Is it who we follow, what we lead, or both?  Is it more about being ‘right’ or being judged?  Where does the impact occur most and what is not being addressed in those instances?  

Questions continue and considering an expanding portal of people and opportunities to engage in sexual behavior it could be a good guess to think that it will continue to be an issue.


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